My wife has decided to enter a REHAB program for her alcohol dependency thank goodness...this is a good thing.
Anyway, she was looking to get into a 6 month in house program but according to her none would take her because she was not an active alcoholic...
She was able to get into an outpatient program that lasts 8 weeks...it is not what we had talked about but it is a first step so I do not want to rain on her parade...
What I need to know is what exactly happens from here? Does she go into an in-house program after this or does she continue with anoter program or is she back on the street to fend for herself?
So I am hoping that she is eligible after this for a better program and that more can be done to assist her on her recovery...what are her options if any and where do we go from here...?
We are trying to work things out but her moving back in right now is out of the question...she needs to prove herself to me for that to happen again...jury is still out !
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Apparently it's not her fault she cannot get into an in-patient program, so this is your best alternative. Not drinking and being sober are two different things. Her next step should be to attend AA every day for at least 90 days and then keep attending as often as possible for the rest of her life. What happens next is tough to say. She should try to get into an in-patient program, but if she can't that's not her fault. Being "on the street" (if you mean that literally) is tough, but homeless people get sober through AA, too. If she goes to AA, she'll have a sponsor who will talk with her every day and help her maintain real sobriety. AA is a proven program that works. It's a form of cognitive therapy and has been around since 1933. If she wants to live a sober life she may not need in-patient IF--and that's a big IF--she wants sobriety. EDIT: Thank you for your additional comments. I wish I could tell you what you should do about her moving back in, but none of us really can. I am dealing with a young alcoholic who has moved back in with his parents and that support is helping him tremendously. On the other hand, she has to want to get sober for herself--not for you and the children--for it to stick. If you think she'll quit and work a program only if she's with you, she won't succeed. The 90 meetings in 90 days is a benchmark you can use to see if she's serious. Perhaps you should tell her you'll consider allowing her to come back in if she makes the 90 days and commits herself to regularly attending AA; working the steps and getting a sponsor. It's the sponsor who can help her anytime, day or night, not you. An AA sponsor is available for the persons they help 24/7.
Well I would make sure by calling the in house program your self and find out whether they will accept her. if in fact that is true then she will have to do the out patient treatment which takes alot more will power and support and strength. Try to avoid rainging on her parade but at the same time you let her move back in now and she will see that even though it took her alittle bit longer but hse can still manipulate you. I am not sure if the inhouse program will accept her after these treatments. I would call them directly an dfind out step by step what is going to happen. Stand your ground and stay strong even if you want her to move back in. Dont or it will result in the loss of all that you have accomplished so far.
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